In the latest episode of On the Marie Curie Couch, bereavement expert Jason Davidson meets David Lammy.
British Labour Party politician David Lammy has been the MP for Tottenham for 20 years. Once a practising barrister, David wrote the influential Lammy Review, which looked at the treatment of Black, Asian and Minority Ethnic people in the criminal justice system. He was born and brought up in his constituency, and still lives there with his wife and their three children. In this episode of On the Marie Curie Couch, David opens up about the death of his much loved and missed mother, Rose.
Being a rock for Mum
“I remember the call. I was in the car on the way to deliver a speech, it was quite a big speech. I was Culture Minister at the time, under Tony Blair, and my sister was with my mother. They said that she had a lump the size of a melon in her stomach and it was ovarian cancer.
“I delivered the speech, but I was really thrown. I had to be a rock for my mum. She’d been a rock for me and I made the decision at that point that I would attend every single hospital appointment with her, every single chemo appointment, help her navigate the NHS. My mum was a single mum, so it was tough.”
Dying from the feet up
“My mother said, ‘Look, you either die from the head down or the feet up and I’m dying from the feet up, which means that I’m still here, right to the end.’ It’s only when you’ve been with loved ones with Alzheimer’s or some cancers where you haven’t been able to connect with them in quite that way that you realise how special it is that they’re there with you right up until the last.
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Content note: discussion of death and grief with reference to themes/topics that might be triggering or upsetting.