In the latest episode of On the Marie Curie Couch, bereavement expert Jason Davidson meets Jacqui Joseph.
This month, Jason is joined by TV presenter, producer and eco-friendly interior designer Jacqui Joseph. Inspired by her painter/decorator father and seamstress mother, Jacqui has a passion for beautiful things for the home and loves upcycling and crafting. You might have seen her presenting shows such as Homes Under The Hammer, This Morning, Big Strong Boys, Morning Live and Money For Nothing. In this episode of On the Marie Curie Couch, Jacqui talks to Jason about the pain of losing her husband, Andy, to oesophageal cancer on New Year's Day 2018.
My life stopped
"The day Andy died, I looked out the window and saw people getting on with their lives, like normal. I don't live on a busy road but just seeing people out on New Year's Day, walking their dog or walking with their family. I was like, 'Don't you know what's happened? Why are you out there having a great time and laughing?' I felt like that for ages. Sometimes even now, and it's horrible to say this, I think, 'How come you're still here and Andy's not?"
The power of planning
"I've done my Will. Some people say, 'That's a bit morbid. That means you're going to die,' but actually, we're all going to die at some point. Better to live on in another way, in the heart of someone else or whatever your belief is, and to have things in order as best you can."
It's the ones you leave behind that suffer the most because you've already gone to wherever, the higher plain, whatever you believe in, wherever you think you're going to go, but to another place. It's the ones that are left behind that have to deal with it."
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Content note: discussion of death and grief with reference to themes/topics that might be triggering or upsetting.